For everything you’ve missed, you gained something else—and for everything you gain, you lose something else.” Living the bachelorette life taught me exactly that. Curious how? Read my blog!

May 05, 2022
Mall of Asia, Philippines

Disclaimer: All views expressed on this blog are my own based on my own experiences and do not represent of any entity with which I have been, are now or will be affiliated

“For everything you have missed, you gained something else, and for everything you gain, you lose something else” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

A grueling 2 1/2 hour commute going to Alabang on a Wednesday night made me contemplate of going back to Manila and live on my own.

In December 2020, when I first returned to the Philippines, I stayed with my brother in Batangas. He is the only member of my family in the Philippines, as my parents and youngest brother, Yves, now reside in California. My siblings and I have a strong bond. Although L and I are close, I’ve realized that he has different priorities now, he’s married, and it’s not the same as when we were children. This realization triggered a wave of isolation, and for the first time in a very long time, I felt truly alone. It felt as if someone had taken my sibling from me, despite the fact that he is close by. No one is at fault. Lewds is still my emergency contact, and I see him every week walking his canines.

I decided to rent a location close to my workplace from which I can see the city lights at night. I am extremely pleased with the relocation and the possibilities are limitless! I enjoy the fact that I am so independent! I cannot wait for what is to come. I have purchased supplies and am eager to resume preparing and decorating. I adore my residence!

I also invited my brother, sister-in-law, and friends because I am so pleased with the relocation! I’ve also reconnected with Mia, my college best friend, five years after her marriage. We went to TGI Fridays, our favorite restaurant, where we discussed how great massages are now that we’re 30, UAAP (college basketball), her bachelor versus married life, alcohol, and men, haha. I had missed spending time with her.

I realized that being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it means comfort, freedom, endless adventures, travel, fun and enormous options and you’re pretty sexy. It also means you’re taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with. But of course, it comes with a sacrifice.

It maybe hard to walk in a single woman’s shoes sometimes that’s why I really need special ones every now and then to make the walk a little more fun. 😉

Love,

Maria, sometimes Niskie